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I was afraid. I didn’t want other people to think I was a flake or that I didn’t have it altogether. The truth is that I don’t have it altogether and that’s okay. I had to make the best decision for me and my family and that’s exactly what I did.
I cancelled the Mother’s Day restock of my journal.
This wasn’t just about putting in an order for another 300 journals. There’s so much more to restocking your shop. I have to raise the funds, make space in my home, go to vendor events and do my ‘favorite’ activity of all time: social media marketing. I was signing up for 3 months of laser focus on my business.
Because I was getting interest, good reviews and questions about when the next drop was happening, I put pressure on myself to keep the momentum going. I was choosing a sprint life instead of a marathon one and with all of the progress I made emotionally in these past 3 years, I could feel it in my spirit that it wasn’t the right decision. Knowing you’re making a poor choice and actually doing something about it are two different things. I would be lying if I didn’t admit to considering that my actions could not only lead to disappoint but could shift other people’s perceptions of me. I had to go back to center.
I find that journaling and/or reading shorten the time it takes me to get clear on my values. I realized that in this season, my focus was needed elsewhere. Our family is anticipating some changes in the next few months, so it was important for me to be present, have loads of fun and focus on my health. It was clear. A journal restock just wasn’t the right move. So, I sent messages to anyone who pre-ordered, refunded the money and sat on the couch in silence.
As soon as I hit the final “submit payment” button, I felt LIGHTER…
Why is it that this euphoric feeling is the hardest thing to remember right before I eliminate a task, activity or physical item? I will do better to bring it to the forefront faster when the feelings of fear, scarcity and people pleasing flood my emotions. I will hold onto the memories of me riding bikes with my kids late last night instead of being on the computer. I will remind myself of the newfound softness in my shoulders now that I’m not carrying around the weight of all that comes with launching. I will shout from the rooftops, the excitement I feel to plan coffee dates, walks and deep conversations with the beautiful people that make up my tribe.
I am giving myself time to plan my restock in a way that works for me (which will be at Christmas time so set your calendars) and I am choosing to believe that there is enough abundance in the world that sales will be fine. My goal is not to build my life around my business but to build a business around a life I love. I don’t have a lot of use cases to pull from but I guess I’ll just have to be a pioneer in this area. If you have never seen slow or intentional business, work, parenting, marriage modeled, maybe you’re meant to go first.
I don’t want or have to do it all. And to be honest, it feels so much better when I actively choose not to. The choice is always ours. If a full plate is your jam, then I am happy for you. But if it’s heavy, tipping over, causing you to bend, this is your reminder to take something off. Our plates may look unconventional to some, but boy do they feed our spirits well!
Journal Prompts
What deadlines have I placed on myself that can be moved or eliminated?
What am I doing out of obligation, guilt, or fear rather than purpose and joy?
If I had one extra free hour a day, what activity would I add or prioritize instead?
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“My goal is not to build my life around my business but to build a business around a life I love.” This. Thank you for encouraging through your beautifully communicated transparency 🥰