When Tragedy Strikes
Leaning on God and Each Other
One moment, life is moving as usual.
The next, something shakes the ground beneath you.
A headline. A phone call. A tragedy that stops time in its tracks.
Suddenly, all the small stuff fades. The to-do lists, the deadlines, the minor annoyances—none of it matters.
Because in that moment, you remember:
Life is fragile. And we are not in control.
Then the heaviness sets in.
You sit with the grief, the confusion, the helplessness.
You want to do something—but what?
There’s no fixing. No undoing. Just the weight of something too heavy to carry alone.
And then another thought creeps in.
If life is this fragile, am I even living the way I should be?
When We Feel Helpless, We Have Two Choices
When tragedy hits whether it's a news headline, a personal loss, or an unexpected storm in our own lives we have two choices:
We can shut down.
Numb ourselves. Scroll endlessly. Keep busy. Avoid the feelings.We can lean in.
Turn toward God. Turn toward each other. Let this remind us that presence is a gift not a guarantee
I know how easy it is to shut down.
When I was diagnosed with breast cancer, I wrestled with God in ways I never had before.
Hadn’t my family suffered enough?
Hadn’t my mother already buried a child from this?
Why does God allow innocent people to suffer while others seem to thrive?
I didn’t get an answer that day.
But I cried out to Him because that was all I could do.
And sometimes, that’s all He asks of us.
To come to Him as we are. Broken, angry, confused, overwhelmed. To stop pretending we have to carry it all alone. To let Him hold us up when we feel like collapsing.
That moment marked the beginning of a new kind of relationship with Him.
Not one built on routine, but on real trust, real surrender, real dependence.
That relationship kept me hopeful during treatment.
It kept me steady when I should have been spiraling.
It’s what led me here—to coaching, to helping others, to creating spaces for honesty and healing.
Because in our deepest sorrow, God is already at work.
What to Do When You Feel Helpless
You don’t have to fix everything.
You don’t have to say the right words.
You just have to turn toward Him.
Here’s what that can look like:
Find a quiet place.
Step away from the noise, the distractions, the need to fill the silence.
Let yourself sit with what you’re feeling instead of pushing it down.Cry out to God for help.
No filters. No perfect, polished prayers. Just you and Him, raw and real.
Tell Him everything—the confusion, the anger, the heartbreak. He can take it.Pay attention to who and what He sends your way.
Look for the people, the words, the small signs of His presence. Sometimes it’s a friend who calls at just the right moment. Sometimes it’s a Bible verse that jumps off the page. Sometimes it’s just a deep knowing that He’s near.
Let whoever shows up help you.
This is the hardest part. Let people love you. Let them in.
We were never meant to carry this alone.Take it one moment at a time.
Healing doesn’t come in a rush. You don’t have to fix everything today. Just take the next small, faithful step.
Because when you do? God will meet you there.
The Faithfulness Loop
Pain happens.
We feel helpless.
We cry out.
God moves.
We see His faithfulness.
We trust more.
And somehow, we are changed.
Not overnight. Not always in the way we expect.
But God always moves.
And He always keeps His promises.
You Don’t Have to Walk Through This Alone
If you’re feeling the weight of grief, burnout, or just the heaviness of life, I want you to know: you don’t have to figure it out alone.
As a faith-based time management coach, I help women create space for what truly matters—and sometimes, that means making room for healing.
If you need help finding a therapist or faith-based support, you can reach out to me.
I can help you find trusted resources in your area or simply support you as you find your next step forward.
Because your time, your energy, and your healing matter. And sometimes, the first step is simply making space for it.
Great thoughts as usual